I am
the last one of a family of seven children. My parents are ordinary people, but
their vision to invest their children’s education has impacted our lives
dramatically.
For
a long time, I always thought that I grew up in a poor and hard-working
family. Now I live in this diversity
country for three decades, I then realized what poverty really is. If we have
daily bread on the table and our parents manage to satisfy what we need (not always
what we want), theoretically we are not poor. Particularly with so many kids to
be educated, I think my parents have done an extraordinary job.
In
December 2011, I made a trip back to California to visit my siblings. A
conversation about making our family history photo book to honor our parents
came up. While I was there, I immediately began to select and photograph old
photos from my sibling’s albums. However, we seven kids live in three different
countries and we are all grand parents now. It is a major undertaking to gather
pictures and data from my siblings and their children (and grandchildren),
edited and resized, added captions or descriptions, placed pictures on pages in
chronological order per each individual, wrote stories for each family or
individual from childhood to the present and traced our family origin.
First
I built the outline of the book, placed photos on the pages, and started to
write stories. I ‘interviewed’ my siblings through emails, phones and skype
calls. To me, writing stories is the most fulfilling part of the work. I started
out as a photographer and photo editor, and then, I was a journalist and later
a historian. This is absolutely a
life-changing experience for me to dictate and compile a visual history that I have
not known much. Listening to my older sibling’s stories is just like going back
to our childhood all over again. Foremost, we all realized how much we have
‘inherited’ from our parents that we were not aware, and how poignantly we miss
our parents now.
After
one year and 3 month of routinely endless efforts, I finally sent the book out
to be printed in March 2013. Anything that I can get my hands on is pictured
and written in this 160 pages book which is illustrated in both English and
Chinese characters. If not for page limitations, I could easily double the
size. Every member of our extended families (four generations) can now or later
(for the 4th generation) go through the pages and get to know one
another’s entire life to date. How cool is that!
My family history book (texture added to age the look) |
As
far as I have lived my life, there was not a moment when I am not pondering and
rationalizing what I can do better and do differently if I could be young again.
And, from this point on, how I can live a life that I won’t have regret when I
eventually back to dust. Although I have
made numerous photo books to record our family events, vacations, grand
children’s birth and growth as well as family yearbooks. This family history book is definitely the
most meaningful and substantial work.
Etc. photo books |
So, what’s next to my agenda in addition to my regular photography activities?
Our
younger generation is doing a much better job keeping track of their life
activities. Digital photography has also made it easier. One thing the young
parents do not have is Time. They are
either advancing their career or dedicated to raise our grand children. I think
it is a good job for grand parents to be the photographer and record keeper. A
photo says thousand words. It is so much
easier to snap a shot than try to describe how precious and innocent our grand
children’s facial expressions are, isn’t it?
Record keeping for a family is essential. We might as well start from
now, and in an organized manner. In that case, our children won’t need a 15
month time to finish a family history and you can have a yearbook every year.
My
younger daughter lives in Seattle area now.
Not too far, but it is not a trip that I can or want to take as
often. Whenever I am there, I am looking for portrait opportunities....
Beautiful. Thanks, Missy
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